If a girl cannot fit in

By Sarah Kristine via UN Volunteers

We all want to fit in. It’s a human thing. Society tells us something is wrong with us if we can’t fit in so when we fail to be part of a group, we start to believe that there is something wrong with us.

I am here to tell you this, whether you fit on or not, there is nothing wrong with you. Humans are diverse, with different characters and failure to fit in just means you may not have found the people who share the same values as you and that is okay.

So how do you cope when you can’t fit in? Firstly, don’t feel sorry for yourself. You are not a sad story and even if no one wants to hang out with you, it doesn’t mean you have to make your own company miserable. Secondly, find interesting things you can do on your own so that you can occupy your time with something useful; read a book or practice a hobby.

Don’t be afraid to make a first move. If you are in a new place, don’t be shy to say hello first. Of course there will always be people who are not friendly, but chance is that there will be someone ready to show you around. 

Also, use social network to find people who share your interests but always be careful about sharing private information with strangers. Follow your gut and make your move only if it is wise and potentially safe. Safety first.

If the reason you don’t fit in is because you feel everyone is lower than you or not deserving of your company, then you are actually depriving yourself of a learning experience. Every person has a story and looking down on others shows that you need to improve your own character first before hanging out with other people.

I know you will find your place in the world one day. Be safe.

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ABOUT SARAH

Sarah Kristine, 23, comes from the 7107 islands of Philippines.

She says: I strike people as weird and short fuse in some way because of my angular face. The truth is behind this mollycoddled only child is a compassionate woman who's still figuring it out what does she really want in life.

I'm not as ladylike as Audrey Hepburn but lady enough to gain respect. I am a flawed human being who choose to accept that my imperfections are not a hindrance to turn my visions into reality.